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The Name Fen & Fir
A fen is a type of wetland that contains unique conditions for rare symbiotic biodiversity. In some old English folklore, there are stories of people wading through the fens to fight monsters, representing the strength of the human spirit. More generally, wetlands can be seen to represent resiliency, transition, and transformation.
A fir tree is a coniferous tree that grows in abundance here in Washington State. Due to their evergreen nature, they have come to represent hope and prosperity, reminding us of the return of spring as we move through winter.
I chose this name for my practice to highlight themes that so often come up in therapy. As we navigate hardship, we must cultivate and hold onto hope, and remember our strengths as we transform into a new phase of being.
Kelsey Graham, LMFTA
I grew up here in Western Washington, and often find myself returning to nature as I move through life. Aside from enjoying outdoor activities, getting out into the woods or dipping into a river helps me regain perspective – that I am one piece of an interconnected system.
As a systemic and relational therapist, I work to highlight connections and place problems in a larger context. Our identities, family background, and personal history all impact the way we experience the world. This is why I utilize a relational, strength-based approach in my work.
Individual Counseling: I have worked with folks struggling with mood disorders like anxiety and depression, self-esteem, people pleasing, and perfectionism. I also have experience in working with disordered eating and body image difficulties. As a queer neurodivergent woman, I pride myself on offering a LGBTQ+ and neurodiversity affirming space.
Couples Counseling: I offer a focus on premarital or early marriage counseling, navigating things such as communication, conflict resolution, and transitioning into your own family system. Traditionally, premarital counseling has been offered in a religious setting, which may feel alienating to those who do not feel connected to a specific faith. While I offer a premarital/early marriage focus, my practice is open to any couple looking to work through a transition or deepen their union.
Experience
I obtained a Bachelor of Arts in Psychology from the University of Washington, with a minor in Diversity Studies. After graduation, I volunteered with Crisis Connections and Lifeline as a phone support worker. Later, I returned to school at Pacific Lutheran University to obtain my Master of Arts in Marriage and Family Therapy.
I was a clinical intern at both the Couple and Family Therapy Center and Affordable Counseling Center. I worked with individuals, couples, and families of various backgrounds addressing a wide array of issues. During my training I developed an approach emphasizing collaboration, highlighting strengths, and creating an authentic therapeutic relationship.
Post graduation, I worked as a Mental Health Therapy Associate at Liberating Jasper. I belonged to an interdisciplinary team supporting individuals and/or family members supporting individuals recovering from disordered eating with a body liberation focus.
In 2025 I opened Fen & Fir Counseling to create a new space for individual and couples therapy. I am so grateful to be here, and excited to work with you!